Friday, October 19, 2007

Film Scenes That Matter: Say Anything

It feels a bit vulnerable to break kayfabe and talk honestly about things like love, relationships and wedding anniversaries on a [ahem] blog.

Talking honestly and openly about feelings is something I struggle with anywhere, really. The words sometimes just feel too far inside for me to reach. It's much easier to write about Oprah blaming her 20 pound weight gain on an unbalanced thyroid (Please, make it stop!), or how the movie I watched taught me a life lesson.

It's only slightly easier after 16 years of marriage. I remember early on writing in a card I bought for her the phrase: "You're one hell of a woman!" And I meant it sincerely. To me, that was one of the most important complements I could give her. It meant I valued her independence, her humor, her strength of character and her life perspective.

(Oh, and her legs! They were important too.)

So, while the phrase I wrote meant all that and more to me, I didn't realize until later that it didn't mean the same to her. It meant, simply: "You're one hell of a woman!"

Well, she is.

And even though she pretends she doesn't read this blog, we both know she's lying. So, here's a Film Scene That Matters to both Kristy and to me. We loved this movie as kids. Even though the scene is simple, it demonstates without words the power and passion of love.

What Lloyd Dabler's
trying to say is:
"You are one hell of a woman, and I need you in my life."

And so am I.


Tim said...


all I have to say is, "I gave her my heart, she gave me a pen."

Anonymous said...

Wow. And to think that I was expecting a box of paper clips.

Hoyt said...

Happy Anniversary, Film Geek! You two are awesome.

The Film Geek said...

Thanks Tim, and Hoyt! I--and I'm sure Kristy too--appreciate the thought.

Hey Anonymous: You still got some pretty great legs! :)

Spike Nesmith said...

Kickboxing.... sport of the future.


Dear The Film Geek

Please tell us what, if anything, you thought of "Michael Clayton".

Thanks in advance

The Film Geek said...

Thanks Spike. It's on the list. Hell, I haven't even seen a Netflix flick in a couple weeks.

But it's on the list.

Tell you what: if you've seen it, wanna write a guest commentary for me? Seriously.

Jackie said...

Happy Anniversary you crazy kids!

The Film Geek said...

Thanks Jackie! :)

Rebecca said...

Happy Anniversary!! Looks like you did much better this year!

Spike Nesmith said...

I'd love to... I can expand on the post I made about it last night at my own blog. =) Lemme know when and how you want it.

Elvis Drinkmo said...

Happy Anniversary, Mr. and Ms. Film Geek!! And many more too.

primalscreamx said...

To hollywood endings that aren't endings at all.
Congrats, kids.

The Film Geek said...

Thanks, folks. We really appreciate the thoughts.

He Spike: I saw TWO theater movies this weekend. But, neither were that movie! So, send it to my email address, I'll add an oprning paragraph about what's going on and simply paste in what you send. No edits involved, so write what you wish!

JDB said...

Happy anniversary, you two! Great scene - sets up one of my favorite South Park moments, too.

The Film Geek said...

Thanks JDB!